If you have not been to a counsellor before or are not sure what is involved,
you might find it helpful to read these brief notes about the basics.
Therapy is a personal opportunity
In the therapy sessions you can look at and take stock of various aspects of your life and
feelings, talking about them freely and openly in a way that is rarely possible with friends and
family. Bottled up feelings such as anger, anxiety, grief and embarrassment can become very
intense and therapy offers an opportunity to explore them. Therapy is a way of enabling
choice or change or of reducing confusion. It can enable you to “step through the door”
to a life of less distress.
Therapy is not the same as advice
I do not give advice or direct you to take a particular course of action. I do not judge or
exploit you in any way.
Prior to commencing therapy I clarify and agree the rights and responsibilities of both of us
in a contract. Carefully protecting the confidential basis of counselling is an essential part
of my role. Very rarely, however, confidentiality cannot be kept. If you are in danger or
someone close to you is at risk of serious harm, then I will discuss with you how other people,
such as a GP, could be involved for safety reasons.
Therapy is not always the right step
During the first meeting, which is like a two-way assessment, we might agree that your
problem can be helped more effectively by another practitioner or a specialist.
At the initial session, if you decide to have therapy with me on a regular basis,
we will discuss what you want to achieve and how many sessions might be needed.
Many people start with 6 and sometimes that is enough; others continue for 12 weeks
Therapy is not a soft option
It can be truly challenging. The moves you choose to make to improve your daily life
or cope with difficult situations often require the courage to do things differently. Facing
your doubts and fears in therapy might feel risky at first but it's a sure way to rediscover
your genuine strengths and put them into action. Some people find that therapy changes
the way they relate to friends and family. This can put strains on relationships. It is
important to make sure you can trust your therapist and they have had proper training
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